There are hundreds of articles that teach you how to approach a woman in the best way. On the one hand, there are people who say that you should always be direct with women and on the other hand, there are the people who are convinced that the indirect approach leads to the best results.
In this article I want to take things a little bit further. What I want to do now is to have a look at what happens after you either told her that she is attractive, or after you made up some random reason why you have to talk to her.
Being able to approach a woman is great and mastering this first step of getting into contact with women is absolutely essential if you want to become a successful seducer. However, a good approach doesn’t guarantee a successful interaction.
Everybody can remember a pick-up line and recite it mechanically when talking to a woman. The real art is to know what to say after the approach. Some words will increase your chances of ending up in bed with the lady you approached and other words will make it really hard for you, to transform a short conversation into a number close.
Using the right words after an approach is definitely no science. Nevertheless, there are a lot of men who use an approach that might appear logical, but that is completely inefficient to get a girl’s number.
The Mistake That Most Guys Make
As a guy you are used to think logically. The typical conversation style between men is direct and straight to the point. When I am talking with guys I also talk in a very direct way, without mentioning my feelings all the time. For us men this is normal.
There is just one error in reasoning that a lot of guys make. Just because we men feel comfortable talking in a logical and direct way, doesn’t mean that women are also comfortable with this communication style. If you want to become a successful seducer you have to understand that women think in emotions and not in logical facts.
That’s why the best way to seduce women is by talking about their emotions and asking them questions that cause emotional reactions in them. What most guys do and what I also did back in the days when I was extremely unsuccessful with women, is to ask logical questions.
- Where do you live?
- Since when do you live here?
- In which Industry do you work in?
Sorry, but asking a woman where she lives and in which industry she works doesn’t trigger any emotional reactions in her, besides being bored. No matter what you say after an approach, make sure that you don’t ask her logical questions.
A Little Bit of Small Talk
Even if asking her logical questions is not a good idea, unless you want to land in the friend zone, you also shouldn’t directly ask her about the meaning of life. There is a fine line between talking about a woman’s emotions and being a weirdo.
In order to avoid the weirdo trap, you should have at least a little chat before you talk about the deeper stuff. A little small talk during which you ask her what she is up to and what she is doing at the moment will release the tension.
However, be careful that you don’t dwell on the small talk level for too long. After about one minute you should focus all your energy on connecting with her. Let’s have a look at the best way to connect with a woman.
Connect Through Assumptions
You already know that asking logical questions is not the best idea if you want to connect with a woman, but what about questions that have the goal to trigger emotional reactions in her?
Those questions are great, but within the first two minutes of an interaction there is one tactic that works even better than those types of questions. Whenever you ask a question, you have to be careful that you don’t ask her questions that she can answer with “yes” or “no”. Otherwise, you will never have an engaging conversation.
Have you ever thought about making assumptions instead of asking questions?
When you ask a woman if she loves traveling, she can either say “yes” or “no” but if you tell her that she looks like an adventurous girl who loves to travel, she can respond in many different ways. She can either give you reason why you are right or why you are wrong, or she can ask you why you think that.
This is the easiest way to establish a memorable conversation, without giving her the feeling that she is in a job interview for a job she didn’t even apply to.
Ask Questions that Matter
During the further procedure you can then ask her questions that really matter. Don’t just ask her where she is from. Ask her about her hobbies and her passions. Find out who she is and what she stands for. Find out if she is playful and open-minded by asking her about her craziest experiences.
The key of interacting with a woman is to make the conversation fun and possible, while at the same time finding out useful information about her. Ask her about all the stuff that you need to know in order to decide whether or not she is relationship material.
Once you found out that she is open-minded, loves to travel and likes to take care of people, you know that she is a girl you want to meet again. It is time to get her phone number.
Don’t Ask For the Number
What is the best way to get a woman’s phone number? Unfortunately, a lot of guys would say that you should simply ask her. I think that this is a huge mistake. Do you remember that I have said that asking questions that she can either answer with “yes” or “no” is not a good idea? By asking a woman for her phone number you always run the risk of getting an answer that you don’t want to get.
A sure way to avoid that is by being confident and ballsy enough to assume that she will give you her number anyway. Instead of asking her for her number, you should lead her towards giving you her number.
All you have to say is:
“You seem to be a really cool girl and I would love to see you again. Let’s stay in contact.”
Say this while you are giving her your phone and she will type in her number without thinking about it for one second. Once you have her number you can set up a date that will lead to more than just a conversation.